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Asking this after a conversation with a bunch of my male friends about the dynamics of dating.

Basically, I (22F) have just started putting myself out there in the dating scene after years of not being interested at all.

I've just realised that i really enjoy taking the lead with guys. I like to initiate the flirting, being the one to ask the guy out, taking them to my favourite places, paying on dates. I like giving them compliments, and I'd even love the idea of buying flowers for them.

I don't mind being the one courted, but it bores me, and actively courting is way more fun for me, even if it eventually doesn't lead to anything serious.

I said this to my friends, specifically talking about a guy I'm currently in a talking stage with, to which I'm acting like I've just described, and he doesn't seem to mind at all.

But they told me it's best i stop doing this, that if they were in this position they'd feel "feminised" and uncomfortable, they'd pull away eventually if a woman did this to them, because it's sort of invalidating for men.

Is it really that off-putting to be on the receiving end of the courting for most men? am i breaking some unwritten rule?

i think my friends are just old-fashioned (and maybe dealing with some toxic masculinity?) but I'd like to hear other men prospectives.